Being in a relationship is equally weird and wonderful all at the same time.
One minute you’re donning your fanciest outfits and heading for 2 for 1 cocktails at Slug and Lettuce before you head out for a fancy AF meal, and the next minute you’re filming the other throwing up in the middle of the street in Corfu after one too many shots on a party boat (true story…).
Spending so much time together – especially when you live together – offers up a plethora of possibilities in which you’ll see each other in the most disgusting (and glorious states). After reading this recent research from Ferratum, it got me thinking about all the things that happen after you stop dating and become an official couple.
Here are my thoughts on all the weird and wonderful things that happen when you’re in a relationship.
Call each other the most bizarre names
Bubba, munchkin, bab, chicken, angel face cake (amongst others) are just some of the weird names that I call Matt on a daily basis. They’re not particularly endearing, and I’m pretty sure if anyone heard me call him those things, they’d think I was talking to a two year old child. But it seems that when you’re in a relationship, you really do lose all sense of reality when it comes to pet names.
Getting ready for a night out and being surprised that your other half still takes longer than you
According to the study carried out by Ferratum, 61% of men take longer getting ready before a first date, compared to just 44% of women.
This is certainly something that I can attest to, as Matt absolutely takes longer than me to get ready before we go on a night out. It is sort of nice though that he still puts in a lot of effort even though we’ve been together for almost three years, as 44% of men make more effort when they’re single compared to when they’re in a relationship.
There’s absolutely no barriers when it comes to personal space
Even if you’re grossed out by the thought of feet, spots or ingrown hairs, I can guarantee you’ve had a little inspection of all the above if your partner has asked you to.
There’s no such thing as personal space when it comes to relationships; if that weird looking spot needs popping, you can bet that you’re gonna be the one to do it.
You can literally read each other’s minds
Are you out at a social ~thing~ and your partner is desperate to leave because Steve from work is absolutely draining him? One look from your partner says it all, and you know you have to fake some incredibly lame excuse so that you can both leave.
You’ll become weirdly attached to the TV programs that you watch together
It obviously goes without saying that you can’t watch an episode of your fave TV show without your partner but one thing that may surprise you is just how heavily invested you become in that show.
Matt and I have just finished watching The Office US and now we can’t remember what we did before we indulged so much time watching nine seasons of it.
Any TV program that you spend a lot of time watching together will sort of feel just like ‘yours’ and when it finishes, it sort of feels like you’ve lost a third party in your relationship…
You have your own weird language
One of the things that happen when you’re in a relationship is that you’ll inevitably have your own weird language.
Similarly to being able to read each other’s minds, and having pet names for each other, you’ll also have your own little language that literally no one else would be able to understand.
It makes you sound approximately four years old, but it’s kind of cute in its own way…
You’ll fall into a routine about who pays for dinner
I’ve always been incredibly independent when it comes to having my own money, and I’ve always loved to pay my own way which is a trait that I’ve carried on into my relationship with Matt.
Of course, it’s absolutely wonderful to be treated by your partner every now and then but if you go out for dinner regularly, then it’s only fair to split the bill.
68% of men are likely to offer to pay the bill on a first date, but more than half are less likely to offer to pay again if a second date is on the cards. Also, 26% of women still expect the other person to pay for dinner which in my opinion, is pretty archaic.
Like I said before, it’s truly lovely to be treated every so often but it’s not right to expect for the other person to pay every single time.
You automatically know when the other person needs their own space
Living in a small studio apartment can prove to be tricky when it comes to having your own space but I definitely think that Matt and I have made it work perfectly well.
When your partner comes home from work and you just know they’ve had a shitty day and just need to spend a few hours on the PlayStation sitting in their pants with a bag of Doritos, then you’ve pretty much already nailed the ‘own space’ element of your relationship.
You listen to their interests and passions but it’s totally ok if you don’t share all the same interests
One of the best things that happen when you’re in a relationship is that you’ll have so many things in common so the conversation is always flowing and you never run out of things to talk about.
However, it’s also totally ok to have different interests and hobbies and you don’t both have to share exactly the same obsessions about everything all the time.
Your inside jokes will never, ever get old
Since Matt and I have been together, there’s been quite a substantial amount of inside jokes shared between us that just never seem to get old.
No matter how many times we talk about them, they still always have us laughing away and I think that’s such a precious thing to share with another person.
What do you think about these weird and wonderful things that happen when you’re in a relationship? Let me know in the comments or on Twitter @imjustagirl_16.
*This was a collaborative post but all thoughts and opinions regarding the weird and wonderful things that happen when you’re in a relationship are entirely my own. Please see my disclaimer for more.