Do you remember when you were five years old and you answered the question “who do you want to be when you grow up?” with the answer “a princess”, “an actress” or “a ballerina”.
When we were 10, we were asked the same questions and our answers would have been along the lines of “a vet”, “a scientist” or “a teacher”.
When we left school, the same questions were drilled into our heads and if you were lucky, you’d have answered with “a lawyer”, “a doctor” or “a police officer”. For those of us who had no idea, we were left to feel inferior and inadequate, as if the fact that we couldn’t make life-changing decisions about our own lives was so completely absurd.
Are we supposed to know what we want to do when we grow up simply just because we are considered to be ‘grown up’? My latest post is all about figuring out who I want to be when I grow up and whether our life choices need to always be set in stone.
My answer to the question “who do you want to be when you grow up?” has always been “a writer”. It’s been my dream to write for as long as I can remember; I’ve written stories and poems and great big diary entries in the form of essays for so many years now.
I’ve also always been told since I was extremely young that I could never really make a career out of writing, magazines were a dying trade and surely you’d never be able to make a successful career by writing online? However, in the last year or so, I’ve started to prove people wrong; I can actually make money from writing and I’d like to think I’m doing pretty damn well at it.
Alongside my day job in digital marketing, I also run this little blog and my own freelance writing website over at We Write Your Content. It’s still in the really early days but my passion for creating content is greater than ever.
But am I going to be able to do it forever?
I was talking to Matt the other day about what we want to do when we’re older; where do we see ourselves career-wise in twenty or thirty years time? And it was quite surprising to me that neither one of us could give a complete answer.
I know for a fact that I want to be able to write and create content in any way that I can for the rest of my life but with the industry changing at a speed faster than you can blink, I was beginning to get a little sceptical as to what journey my career would take me on.
I then realised that I didn’t actually care; it’s no secret that you can’t plan your life out down to the very last second and there’s always going to be curveballs and unexpected occurences thrown your way that you can’t control. While writing may be my lifelong passion, I am still only 19 afterall and I have so many years to figure out who I want to be when I grow up.
I think that there’s so much pressure on everyone nowadays to have everything figured out, whether that’s with regards to your education choices, personal relationships or career choices, it feels like we’re all supposed to just ‘know’. But that’s certainly not the case.
Have you ever heard anyone on their deathbed utter the words, “I wish I’d worked more”?
That’s because when it comes down to it, your work really isn’t the be all and end all. And while it’s nice to be able to enjoy life’s luxuries – hello, new pair of shiny Louboutins – it isn’t actually the materialistic items that make us the happiest.
So I think I now know who I want to be when I grow up.
I want to be a good person and I want to be happy.
I want to be a good girlfriend to Matt; someone who can look after him and make him incredibly happy.
I want to take care of my family and always tell them that I love them.
And I want to follow my passions and dreams, and whether that’s with regards to writing or travelling the world, I want to give it my all in order to be a ‘successful’ grown up.
Because at the end of the day, all any of us can do is try, and if we all try to be better grown ups, then I think the world could be made into a much better place.
Who do you want to be when you grow up? Let me know in the comments or on Twitter @imjustagirl_16.