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The Things That Friends Has Taught Us About Love*

things that friends taught us about love

You all know by now just how obsessed I am with the TV show Friends. I’ve loved the show for so many years now and I’ve learned many lessons from the iconic 90s show – some of which I’ve spoken about before.

I’m pretty sure if you’ve ever watched even just one episode of this truly brilliant sitcom then you’ll be somewhat aware of the lessons it’s taught us. It’s iconic, brilliant and hilarious and I’m so glad that I was able to grow up with it.

Since I’ve already spoken about the general life lessons that Friends has taught me, today’s post is all about the things that it’s taught us about love; everything from Chandler’s hopelessness with women to Phoebe’s inability to find ‘the one’, there’s plenty of things that we can learn from Friends about love.

things friends taught us about love

Love isn’t always easy or simple

We learn this in the first ever episode of Friends; Ross has just separated from his now-lesbian wife Carol, Rachel bursts into Central Perk after leaving Barry at the altar plus the rest of the gang are going through their own struggles. The lesson we learn here is that love isn’t always as easy-going and as straightforward as we originally hoped for; sometimes it throws curveballs at us and we can only endeavour to do our best.

That being on a break is NEVER an excuse for cheating

I’d love to know where you all stand on this front – do you agree with Ross or Rachel?!

Regardless of whose side you’re on, I personally believe that Ross handled the situation like an absolute jackass and he was so wrong to sleep with ‘the copy-girl’. It’s understandable that sometimes relationships need a little break; if you need to clear your head or sort out your own mess for a little while then that’s fine. What’s NOT fine, is deciding to take a break from someone and then sleeping with someone else just a few hours later – THIS IS A DICK MOVE.

You may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince

I suppose this could apply to the whole gang but I think it’s most appropriate for Phoebe. Phoebe dated a lot of men during the ten seasons and while there’s nothing wrong with that at all, she truly knew once she’d found ‘the one’. The lesson to be learnt here is that you may date a lot of guys (or girls) before you find the one, but if you have a little patience and believe in yourself, then the right one could just be around the corner.

That everyone has a lobster

Whether you believe in soulmates or not, I think one valuable lesson we can take away from Friends is the idea of having a ‘lobster’, Rachel is Ross’ lobster and I simply love the idea of this; there may not be only one person for you in the world but there’ll definitely be one person who you fall in love with and mate for life – Matt is definitely my lobster, he’s effing awesome <3.

That saying ‘I love you’ is the most important thing you can say to someone

Remember when Ross and Rachel said ‘I love you’ for the first time? They’d just had a little argument but then proceeded to tell each other that they were in love with each other and everything else was forgotten. It’s important to remember to tell your SO that you love them as often as you can, and you should always say it with an abundance of passion.

NEVER make a pros and cons list about someone you’re dating (or hope to date)

When Ross made the pros and cons list about Rachel, she was devastated when she found out and this ultimately changed her perception of him. You should never make a list of reasons why you should or should not date someone – and if you do ever make one, make sure they never, ever find it.

You can’t always control what happens

When Monica and Chandler finally decide to have a baby but discover that they’re unable to conceive naturally, it can be said that it could have put quite the strain on their relationship. But despite the devastating news, they got through it together and made decisions that were right for both of them in the end. You can’t always control what’s going to happen, but you can make sure you have someone supportive by your side the whole time.

Don’t pretend you’re not ready for commitment when you really are.

Chandler is notorious for being a bit of a commitment-phobe, that is until he gets together with Monica and realises that she’s everything he could ever want. However, Chandler and Monica very nearly hit a crossroads in their relationship towards the end of season six when Chandler was trying to throw Monica off the scent by convincing her he wasn’t ready for marriage. The lesson to be learnt here is that you should never lie to your SO about your feelings towards them; if you wanna spend the rest of your life with them, make sure they know!

Your true love may just turn out to be your best friend

I think this is probably my favourite lesson I’ve learnt about love from Friends as it’s one that rings true for me. I fell in love with my best friend (Matt) while we were at school and I can safely say it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Monica and Chandler’s relationship is definitely my favourite out of every relationship throughout the whole series; I love the fact that they were best friends for so many years before they eventually fell in love. Neither of them expected it to happen and yet you could tell all along that they were perfect for each other.

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What lessons did Friends teach you about love? Let me know in the comments or on Twitter @imjustagirl_16.


  1. Chloe
    20th January 2018 / 6:54 pm

    I’M ALWAYS ON RACHEL’S SIDE OF THE BREAK DEBATE – maybe because I loathe Ross but mainly because I think he’s immoral, lol! This is such a great post Chlo! Friends has taught me so much about love too xx

    • chloedickenson
      21st January 2018 / 7:06 pm

      Thank you so so much Chlo! Ross was deffo bang out of order! Xx

  2. 20th January 2018 / 7:01 pm

    I love that friends is being spoken about loads lately I’ve watched since it was being aired weekly ok tv haha I’m really that old!
    I agree with all of these, Ross was a dick also I never understood the whole pretending Chandler wasn’t ready to get married, I remember cringing through the whole thing. Xxxxxxxx


    • chloedickenson
      21st January 2018 / 7:06 pm

      Yeah! That was so silly haha xxx

  3. 20th January 2018 / 7:35 pm

    Now is probably a really bad time to admit that I’ve never seen Friends!! I am definitely missing out though, it really is a cult classic! Monica and Chandler’s relationship sounds so cute, and it’s lovely that you see so many parallels between those two and you and Matt! I need to have a Friends Netflix binge this weekend for sure …

    Abbey ❤️

    • chloedickenson
      21st January 2018 / 7:05 pm

      Omg Abbey you definitely need to! It’s one of the best things ever! Xx

    • chloedickenson
      21st January 2018 / 7:05 pm

      Haha thank you so much! Xx

  4. 21st January 2018 / 7:36 pm

    I laughed when I read the pros and cons post haha! Me and my friend actually did this years ago when the guys we were ‘seeing’ brought us more sadness than happiness tbh, so it was justifiable aha! Loved the post xx



    • chloedickenson
      23rd January 2018 / 8:18 am

      Omg how interesting haha! Thanks babe xx

  5. 21st January 2018 / 8:21 pm

    I love this!! I really need to go a Friends binge! xox

  6. 21st January 2018 / 8:26 pm

    I’m on Rachel’s side, Ross really was a jackass. I’m probably the one person who hasn’t watched every sine episode of the show, think I might have to now it’s on Netflix xx

    • chloedickenson
      23rd January 2018 / 8:18 am

      I agree Kristy! Xx

  7. 21st January 2018 / 10:36 pm

    I’ve tried to watch friends a few times and whilst I don’t dislike it, I just don’t really get it and it’s not something I feel like I Want to watch, as much as I feel like I’m missing out because so many people love this show! However, the points made here are so important, and It’s so good to see that such a popular show has all of these life lessons in, opening you up to them probably sometimes without you. even realising!

    Sarah | http://www.sazsinclair.com xx

    • chloedickenson
      23rd January 2018 / 8:17 am

      It’s a shame you’re not the biggest fan Sarah but thank you for reading anyway! X

  8. 22nd January 2018 / 3:29 am

    Love everything about this post and it’s all ABSOLUTELY true! Not only is FRIENDS a-mazing, it is embedded with so many lessons. You could honestly write a months worth of posts pulled from the show – and I really hope you do! Friendship, love, overcoming fear and trials as we grow. So in love ???? Great post!

    • chloedickenson
      23rd January 2018 / 8:16 am

      Thank you so much! X

  9. 22nd January 2018 / 12:19 pm

    I seriously need to sit down and binge watch F.R.I.E.N.D.S! I definitely agree with you and I don’t think you should sleep with someone else when you’re on a break.. It’s disgusting!xo

    Char | http://www.charslittleblog.co.uk

    • chloedickenson
      23rd January 2018 / 8:16 am

      You definitely do! X

  10. 22nd January 2018 / 4:43 pm

    This is such a lovely idea for a post! I love Friends, and growing up in the nineties with Friends on TV I definitely think it helped shape my thoughts on love growing up x

    • chloedickenson
      23rd January 2018 / 8:16 am

      Thank you so much! X

  11. 22nd January 2018 / 8:37 pm

    I’m totally with Rachel on the whole “on a break thing”, however when Mark says he is coming over Rachel should of just point blank said NO! And she should of gone to Ross’ apartment to wait for him… it annoys me so much! And Ross had always jumped to conclusion and become a jealous boyfriend since Mark came on the scene. But the whole on a break thing annoyed me so much and I struggle to watch those episodes as it winds me up ????

  12. 22nd January 2018 / 9:06 pm

    I am obsessed with Friends, I’ve gown up with it and I couldn’t agree with you more about the lessons on love that it has taught anyone who has watched it! x

    Han | lifewithhan.blog

  13. 31st January 2018 / 10:21 pm

    Oh my gosh yes – ‘THIS IS A DICK MOVE’! Speaking of – I’m going to watch that episode now !

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