You all know by now just how obsessed I am with the TV show Friends. I’ve loved the show for so many years now and I’ve learned many lessons from the iconic 90s show – some of which I’ve spoken about before.
I’m pretty sure if you’ve ever watched even just one episode of this truly brilliant sitcom then you’ll be somewhat aware of the lessons it’s taught us. It’s iconic, brilliant and hilarious and I’m so glad that I was able to grow up with it.
Since I’ve already spoken about the general life lessons that Friends has taught me, today’s post is all about the things that it’s taught us about love; everything from Chandler’s hopelessness with women to Phoebe’s inability to find ‘the one’, there’s plenty of things that we can learn from Friends about love.
Love isn’t always easy or simple
We learn this in the first ever episode of Friends; Ross has just separated from his now-lesbian wife Carol, Rachel bursts into Central Perk after leaving Barry at the altar plus the rest of the gang are going through their own struggles. The lesson we learn here is that love isn’t always as easy-going and as straightforward as we originally hoped for; sometimes it throws curveballs at us and we can only endeavour to do our best.
That being on a break is NEVER an excuse for cheating
I’d love to know where you all stand on this front – do you agree with Ross or Rachel?!
Regardless of whose side you’re on, I personally believe that Ross handled the situation like an absolute jackass and he was so wrong to sleep with ‘the copy-girl’. It’s understandable that sometimes relationships need a little break; if you need to clear your head or sort out your own mess for a little while then that’s fine. What’s NOT fine, is deciding to take a break from someone and then sleeping with someone else just a few hours later – THIS IS A DICK MOVE.
You may have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince
I suppose this could apply to the whole gang but I think it’s most appropriate for Phoebe. Phoebe dated a lot of men during the ten seasons and while there’s nothing wrong with that at all, she truly knew once she’d found ‘the one’. The lesson to be learnt here is that you may date a lot of guys (or girls) before you find the one, but if you have a little patience and believe in yourself, then the right one could just be around the corner.
That everyone has a lobster
Whether you believe in soulmates or not, I think one valuable lesson we can take away from Friends is the idea of having a ‘lobster’, Rachel is Ross’ lobster and I simply love the idea of this; there may not be only one person for you in the world but there’ll definitely be one person who you fall in love with and mate for life – Matt is definitely my lobster, he’s effing awesome <3.
That saying ‘I love you’ is the most important thing you can say to someone
Remember when Ross and Rachel said ‘I love you’ for the first time? They’d just had a little argument but then proceeded to tell each other that they were in love with each other and everything else was forgotten. It’s important to remember to tell your SO that you love them as often as you can, and you should always say it with an abundance of passion.
NEVER make a pros and cons list about someone you’re dating (or hope to date)
When Ross made the pros and cons list about Rachel, she was devastated when she found out and this ultimately changed her perception of him. You should never make a list of reasons why you should or should not date someone – and if you do ever make one, make sure they never, ever find it.
You can’t always control what happens
When Monica and Chandler finally decide to have a baby but discover that they’re unable to conceive naturally, it can be said that it could have put quite the strain on their relationship. But despite the devastating news, they got through it together and made decisions that were right for both of them in the end. You can’t always control what’s going to happen, but you can make sure you have someone supportive by your side the whole time.
Don’t pretend you’re not ready for commitment when you really are.
Chandler is notorious for being a bit of a commitment-phobe, that is until he gets together with Monica and realises that she’s everything he could ever want. However, Chandler and Monica very nearly hit a crossroads in their relationship towards the end of season six when Chandler was trying to throw Monica off the scent by convincing her he wasn’t ready for marriage. The lesson to be learnt here is that you should never lie to your SO about your feelings towards them; if you wanna spend the rest of your life with them, make sure they know!
Your true love may just turn out to be your best friend
I think this is probably my favourite lesson I’ve learnt about love from Friends as it’s one that rings true for me. I fell in love with my best friend (Matt) while we were at school and I can safely say it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Monica and Chandler’s relationship is definitely my favourite out of every relationship throughout the whole series; I love the fact that they were best friends for so many years before they eventually fell in love. Neither of them expected it to happen and yet you could tell all along that they were perfect for each other.
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