If you’ve followed me on these parts of the internet for a while then you’ll have no doubt seen me talk about Matt a lot. Today marks mine and Matt’s 18 month anniversary and also one year since we moved in together so for someone as sentimental as I am, it’s a pretty big deal. Unfortunately, Matt’s actually in Latvia this weekend so we’ll be celebrating next week when he’s home but today’s post is going to be centred around moving in/living with your other half.
I did a post way back when we’d first moved in together but today’s post is all about the signs to look out for to show that you’re ready to live together; enjoy!
1. You’re doing it because you want to, not because it’s convenient
When you move in with your partner you need to make sure you’re doing it because of the right reasons, not just because it’s easier for you to get to work from bae’s place. You should do it out of love and the fact that you can’t bare to spend more than one night away from each other (oh how sweet).
2. You don’t feel pressured to do it
Similar to the point above, but you shouldn’t move in together just because everyone says you should. Whether it’s your parents, his parents or the pressure you’re putting on yourself to move in with your other half, you should only move in if you’re 100% certain and not just because “it’s the right thing to do”.
3. You’ve travelled together and have a good sense of what your partner’s habits are like
Travelling together, especially for a long period of time can be a true testament to your relationship and therefore if you manage to have extremely successful holidays together, then you’re more than likely to get on well living together. Matt and I have always been great at travelling with each other so moving in for us was almost like having a sleepover with each other every night!
4. You don’t mind sharing a bed with your SO
A lot of people truly detest the idea of sharing a bed with anyone else so if you’re that way inclined, it could be a sign you’re not quite ready to live with someone else. Luckily for Matt and I, we both love sharing a bed and now whenever one of us is away, it feels pretty weird to sleep alone. It’s also a good idea if you’re the perfect spooning partners and you each have your own role in ‘The Spooning Session’.
5. You’re willing to share almost everything
From finances to cooking to whose turn it is to take the bins out, if you’re willing to share various responsibilities with your OH then you should be well on your way to moving in together. This could even include sharing things like moisturiser and face wash, like I’ve experienced with Matt a fair few times…
6. You practically live together anyway
Do you spend half the week at your house and then half the week at theirs? Is all of his stuff crammed into little spaces around your house? If so, you’re almost already living together, you probably just haven’t officially agreed to it yet. I had a drawer of things and my own toothbrush at Matt’s house from the first time I ever slept over so it’s fair to say we were pretty eager from the beginning!
7. You’re both comfortable having your own social life…
While my absolute favourite thing is spending time with Matt, whether that’s just chilling at home or embarking on an extravagant date night, we both still recognise the importance of having our own social lives. With Matt being away in Latvia this weekend, I made plans with my friend last night and I’m spending some time with family tonight; obviously I would much rather Matt be here with me but it definitely is important to recognise that you still need to have your own lives. It also means that the time you do spend together is even more special.
8. …But you also get along with their friends and family too
The chances are, once you move in together, you’re probably gonna be seeing more of your partner’s friends and family due to house warming parties and such. While Matt and I don’t have our own place yet and we actually live with his parents, we also spend a fair amount of time with each other’s friends and family. It’s important for you to get along with the other people in your partner’s life otherwise you may very well struggle when it comes to inviting people round for a house party…
9. You’re able to easily resolve any arguments without too much damage being caused
Once you move in together, you’ll inevitably find that there isn’t much space for you to be able to cool off after an argument so it’s imperative that you’re able to talk things through when you have an argument to save one of you having to spend the night elsewhere. Thankfully, Matt and I have never had an argument where we need some space of our own to calm down but if you do find yourself in that situation quite a lot then you may want to consider resolving any underlying issues before deciding to live together.
10. You can always be yourself around them
As soon as you move in with your other half, you’ll soon find that you’re unable to hide any of your disgusting habits from them as chances are they’ll always be in relatively close proximity. Things like farting, toilet habits and your messy kitchen will all be much more noticeable once you live together so it’s a good idea to make sure that you’re completely comfortable being yourself in front of your partner.
11. You kinda, sorta, really really like your bae
It obviously helps if you’re pretty infatuated with your SO and you can’t imagine your life without them otherwise moving in together is gonna prove pretty tricky. Once you live together you’ll be able to see exactly how the other person lives their life on a daily basis so it’s a good idea to make sure that you truly love that person. Living with Matt is one of my favourite things that I’ve ever done and I can’t ever imagine not living with him now. He really is a good egg <3.
*This post was sponsored by the aforementioned dating sites but all thoughts and opinions regarding moving in with your partner are entirely my own. Please see my disclaimer for more.
What are some of your tips and advice for moving in with a partner? Let me know in the comments or on Twitter @imjustagirl_16.